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Raising My Daughters Self Esteem to Make Unstoppable Girls

Raising My Daughters Self Esteem to Make Unstoppable Girls and hosting a Girls Movie Night In is the perfect way to celebrate daughters and build little women of integrity. Host a Girls Movie Night In with your daughters and help them keep dreaming and reaching for the stars.

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In the strange little town of Uglyville, being odd is awesome. Hanging onto your strangeness is great and beauty is embraced because everyone is beautiful. The main message of Ugly Dolls movie is you don't have to be perfect to be amazing. This is such a positive aspect to teach our children today.

This animated movie is all about confronting your weirdness, being different, and how very real the struggle can be to fit in these days. My daughters have been home educated since preschool and last year they attended a private christian school and were met with the hard task of trying to fit in to a school where friendships were well established.

UGLY DOLLS ARE REALLY ADORABLE

They learned very valuable life lessons while attending this school for a short time. They learned how they want to act and how they most definitely do not want to act. They both left after the first semester because frankly, girls are mean today. These girls were not taught if they see someone sitting by themselves to go over to that girl and include them. My daughters know to do this, and thought other girls would be this kind to them, but that simply was not the case.

My daughters certainly didn’t have the three s’s the Ugly Dolls had . . . stains, smudges and smells . . . but they did have the label “homeschooler” and “brain” . What they learned most was that everyone needs to show love and kindness, regardless of where you attended school.

Building Women of Integrity

I did not have a great role model in my own home when I was growing up . . . but I did have a fantastic grandmother. She was a wonderful role model for me and I cherish all my memories of her. Now that I am a momma of two beautiful daughters, I want to instill in them the greatest gifts my own grandmother gave to me. Every day I try to show my girls love, safety, nurturing, encouragement and most of all my time {which isn't always easy}.

I make sure I always give my girls my undivided attention. I don't pick them up from school chatting away on my cellphone as I see so often these days. I leave my phone in the car every single time. I want my girls to see how happy I am to see them because I know they are excited to see me after a long day at school.

I hand out compliments to my girls and I don't withhold praise. I don't go around all day telling the girls how awesome they are. But when they do something awesome - I let them know! My girls both play the violin. When they finally master a really difficult song, they are so excited, relieved and are jumping up and down for tackling this undertaking. I jump up and down with them; to show them how proud I am for their perseverance.  This is really important because I want my girls to be able to keep trying when an occasion happens in their life that may be quite complicated.

This goes hand in hand with encouragement I think. While my girls may be struggling with a difficult violin piece, I continue to encourage them, letting them know they will eventually master the song. There are times when they do make mistakes as well, even though they have practiced their fingers off. And that is okay. We are human, we make mistakes and we fail. But I am always there with a pat on the back and a hug, encouraging them along. It is okay to fail. In fact, it is necessary to fail.

My daughters are at an age where they notice other girls and women. They point out to me all the time if someone is dressed inappropriately or if they overhear something just as improper. I try to model my best behavior when my girls are present. I am their voice of reason I guess you could say. I am conscious of what I wear as my girls like to emulate me. I am just as conscious of what comes out of my mouth, because I know when I am not around, they will be saying my words. I don't walk around talking myself down either, because I don't want my girls doing the same to themselves.

I want my girls to be beautiful, strong, capable women and in order for that to happen, then need to recognize and validate other beautiful, strong, capable women.

Raising My Daughters Self Esteem to Make Unstoppable Girls

This is a list of 11 qualities you can build up your daughter by letting her know how awesome she is.

I tell my daughters they are beautiful, because they are.

I tell my daughters they are strong, because they are.

I tell my daughters they are capable, because they are.

I tell my daughters they are smart, because they are.

I tell my daughters they are funny, because they are.

I tell my daughters they are kind, because they are.

I tell my daughters they are talented, because they are.

I tell my daughters they are determined, because they are.

I tell my daughters they are creative, because they are.

I tell my daughters they are hardworking, because they are.

I tell my daughters they are persistent, because they are.

I'm helping my daughters to dream, to plan and to succeed. I'm helping my daughters reach for the stars!

What could be better than hosting a Girls Movie Night In with my daughters to see Ugly Dolls? We did and had a blast. We gave each other manis and pedis and it was so much fun to just sit and giggle with my girls. They did each others hair and makeup and literally, we just relaxed and laughed and had a Great Girls Movie Night In. My girls can't wait for our next Girls Movie Night In and neither can I!

UglyDolls DVD and Blu-ray and on-demand release date is set for July 30, 2019 and is currently available on Digital HD from Amazon Video and iTunes. The all-star voice cast includes Kelly Clarkson, Nick Jonas, Janelle Monáe, Blake Shelton, Pitbull, Wanda Sykes and Gabriel Iglesias. The UglyDolls Original Motion Picute Soundtrack has been on repeat for the past couple of days too - it’s pretty awesome!

Disclosure: No compensation has been received. Tiaras & Tantrums has been provided with a dvd and a few items for our #UglyDolls movie night in. opinions are 100% my own.

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